Simphiwe Ngema Speaks On Honoring Her Late Husband, Healing And The Future
Simphiwe Ngema lost her husband Dumi Masilela after a failed carjacking last year. She recently spoke about honoring him, her healing process and her hopes for the future.
In honoring her husband, she recently released Dumi’s album, and called it, Eternal Crush. This is despite the fact that she did not think she had the strength to do it.
“Launching Eternal Crush was an emotional roller-coaster, but it was something I knew I would do eventually. Dumi was working on his music a few days before he passed. It was what we were talking about every day, it was what he was working on.
“Launching Eternal Crush was an emotional roller-coaster, but it was something I knew I would do eventually. Dumi was working on his music a few days before he passed. It was what we were talking about every day, it was what he was working on.
“Immediately after Dumi’s death, I thought I was going to die. I didn’t have the strength to wake up, let alone listen to his music. It has taken a lot to get to this point and I now take this as a healing process.”
Simphiwe is back to reality now, and even though it has been a tough journey, she is hanging in there.
“I started working three months after Dumi passed away and the first three months were the most difficult. I would stay in the house and not go anywhere but church,” Simphiwe recalls.
“But I got to a point were bills were piling up. I had to wake up and say ‘girl, you need to go work.’ Luckily for me I got Broken Vows. I remember how nervous I was on my first day, hadn’t seen people in three months so I didn’t know how people would react to me. Didn’t want anyone feeling sorry for me but I was lucky my colleagues were not like that at all, it also helped that my best friend, Jo-Anne Reyneke was there.”
She is now stronger and doing better, with her purpose in life having shifted to helping those facing a similar situation
“The pain doesn’t get better, you get stronger, you carry the pain better.” And, to anyone going through what she’s going through, the actress says it’s ok to not be ok. “There are going to be days when you don’t want to wake up, it’s going to get harder before it gets better. It gets really hard but let yourself feel what you feel. Cry, get angry, scream, feel your pain.”
