Nelisiwe Sibiya Speaks On Finding Healing After Opening Up About Abuse
By Purity Lisa on January 8, 2019
Nelisiwe Sibiya stands proud of the progress that is being taken to eradicate women abuse in the country. As a survivor of abuse, she is passionate about creating conversation around this.
Talking about her own experience has also helped her heal.
“I know it’s hard because how do you even begin… but find that one person and tell them what you are going through and show them your scars. The issue is we don’t trust each other, especially as women. But the trick is the first thing that really helps us get out of abusive situations and stay out is to talk about it,” Nelisiwe said.
She has previously explained how she suffered from abuse from a close family relative when she was younger. She thus understands how difficult it is for abuse victims to break free from the fear their abusers put on them psychologically.
“You have to be determined to get out but that’s also hard because the abuse kills your willpower and sometimes you don’t want to fight anymore. It took me forever to get to a place where I could trust a man enough to date him because of everything I went through.
“You need to speak – the more I spoke about it the more things became clearer for me. The more I spoke the more I became honest with myself. That’s how I began to heal. Not talking about it is one of the foremost reasons why women are depressed. But again, I know it’s hard.”
