Actor Nyaniso Dzedze speaks on struggle with masturbation
By Purity Lisa on September 13, 2018
Nyaniso Dzedze has given a detailed account of his addiction to masturbation right from the time he was 16, until the age of 30.
He did this in an Instagram post, explaining that the introspection came from a conversation he had with his wife.
“We used to have sex at an average of about three times a day. Now it is less and less with every month. We’re going to end up having sex once every two months. I refuse to have that relationship‚” said Dzedze to his wife‚ not too long ago.
Sex dependency
For Dzedze, he knows where men’s dependency on sex came from. Society seems to have instilled emotional release for men, through sex.
“Men allow themselves to cry and release emotions they wouldn’t in any other space or time during sex. So what men have naturally done is place every opportunity to express excitement‚ sadness‚ depression‚ stress‚ grief‚ a rough day through sex. Is it truly a wonder why we sexualize everything all the time? Is it such wonder why we want to have sex all the time? Nope.
“Men don’t just like sex‚ we depend on it. We have come to need it‚ almost as integral as food.”
Dzedze recently got married, and openly spoke about his masturbation struggle.
“I used to jack off tons, used to jack off lank hard. I used to pretend that I’m sick on Sundays so my mom would leave me at home alone and I would jack off all day (then I’d pray and repent all night before school). More recently I would jack off from Saturday night till Sunday afternoon without a wink of sleep.
“I could literally go days without sleep… just stroking‚ eating‚ pissing‚ shitting and stroking. I did this periodically for years since. Started around 16 till 30. I was an addict.”
He is currently dealing with his emotional issues, and is no longer an addict. He has learnt to look at women differently and loves differently.
“It was only when I started using emotional tools that addressed the root of my hurt. The more I worked on the heart of the problem‚ the less I needed porn and jacking off to feel better. Since I started moving my inner instability about two and half years ago I must have gone to porn and jacked off a few times rehabilitating but I am not an addict anymore. I don’t need it anymore. I feel different about myself now. Look at women different. I hold women different. I allow myself to love different‚” Dzedze said.
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