“We are all potential widows/widowers” Janet Kanini’s husband shares 10 lessons he has learnt after his wife’s death

Janet Kanini succumbed to lung cancer on April 1st 2017 leaving behind two kids and a husband. The fallen NTV N-soko Property show host was diagnosed with cancer in 2015.

Kanini passed on at the age of 38, she had been married for 9 years at the time of her death. Her husband George Ikua on Wednesday penned an emotional anniversary to his late wife.

“10 years ago today, on 7th March 2008 we wed and danced somewhere in Karen. I celebrate you Janee, everyday,and thanks for the ride, Happy Anniversary love. To all the friends and family that made that day the fun and laughter it was I am eternally grateful, we sure kicked ass,” wrote George Ikua in part.

10 vital lessons

George also shared lessons he has learnt after his wife’s death:

As I sit here reflecting on the journey that was and that is, I have come up with a few truths that I wish to share:

1. We are all potential widows or widowers, act like it today.

2.Marriage is about the two of you, keep the parents, siblings, friends and society in the audience, where they were at the wedding.

3. Learn to fight with your spouse, where you fight to stay not to be right.

4.Laughter is the magic glue, a good laugh heals a lot of hurts..and as they cackle over you will remember why you married them.

5.Create memories, travel by bus, cook her dinner, plant a tree, sing karaoke, walk in the sunset..whatever it is, this is all you will be left with when its all said and done.

6.When it comes to money, men treat her like your daughter, you don’t count what you give. Ladies treat him like your dad, you protect and grow it and I know you wouldn’t fleece your pops would you?

7.Be his or her number one fan,understand and fight for their dreams, career and purpose. Urge them to be their best version of themselves they could be…not your version though 🙂

8.Dating is the opposite of marriage, one is about you and how they treat you right…. and the other is about him or her , how you treat them right. How one precedes the other is truly a concept of Hollywood. In my view friendship should precede marriage.

9. Marriage is not about kids ,they are the icing on the cake. Dont say you are in it for the icing, enjoy that cake.

10. Take a good look at your spouse andif you cant wipe their puke or sh**t, you have a big problem. As casually as we say in sickness and in health a time a day is coming when you have to be their anchor when their body is broken.

Your spouse hate them or love them is the most important person in your life and today I wish you a happy X year X days Anniversary!One love.