Tag: Yvette Obura

Diana Marua has for a long time been the butt of every joke meant to denigrate her husband. Why you ask? Because she was known to be quite the wild card in her youth.  She was essentially the IT girl for a gang of celebrities and some powerful men.

Diana Marua Reveals Her Children Cried After Realizing She Was Pregnant With Baby Number 3

As a result, whenever people wanted to take potshots at him, they do so through his wife. And the fact that she is older and more aware of the ways of the world are something that make for low-hanging fruit.

Add to this the fact that he is clearly within his wife, Diana Marua’s, frame then you sort of understand why people are always ribbing them but I am here in her defence for once. No really, when someone does something worth celebrating, we have to truly celebrate it.

Bahati Exposes Diana Marua’s Behaviour Of Denying Him Conjugal Rights For Days (Video)

And today we are here to discuss the fact that she is a great wife and spouse (same thing right?) to Bahati. We are going to start with the fact that she has put her ego, and her pride to the side and is actually taking care of Bahati’s daughter by Yvette Obura, young Mueni Bahati. That’s right, she has accepted her into her home and she is being raised as one of her own children.

This is no mean feat and this alone makes her worthy of all the praise we can heap on her aswell as encouragement. Why? Because that means she is doing something that is truly rare. More often than not, step-mothers abuse their husband’s children by other women. This is a very well-documented phenomenon known as the “Cinderella Effect“.

Diana Marua needs to stop discussing her marriage to Bahati

To explain that briefly, it is essentially a theory in evolutionary psychology that captivated the tendency of step-parents to harm children that aren’t biologically their own.

“Powerful evidence in support of the Cinderella effect comes from the finding that when abusive parents have both step and genetic children, they generally spare their genetic children. In such families, stepchildren were exclusively targeted 9 out of 10 times in one study and in 19 of 22 in another. In addition to displaying higher rates of negative behaviors (e.g., abuse) toward stepchildren, stepparents display fewer positive behaviors toward stepchildren than do the genetic parents. For example, on average, stepparents invest less in education, play with stepchildren less, take stepchildren to the doctor less, etc. This discrimination against stepchildren is unusual compared with abuse statistics involving the overall population given “the following additional facts: (1) when child abuse is detected, it is often found that all the children in the home have been victimized; and (2) stepchildren are almost always the eldest children in the home, whereas the general … tendency in families of uniform parentage is for the youngest to be most frequent victims.”

And Diana Marua is not one of those bad eggs. She is actually taking care of her stepdaughter like she is her own child. That takes sacrifice and going above our base humanity.

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Perhaps it could be argued that her tribal culture makes it more acceptable for her to do this as the children are her husbands and the man of the home can bring children from previous relationships or from outside their union for her to raise but we live in a time when modern women refuse to sacrifice themselves for anything and are immensely selfish. She is a great example of love.

Diana Marua is sacrificing a bit of her human nature for the sake of ensuring not just her children but all her husband’s get the best possible childcare and she’s willing to personally offer it. That is a great wife!

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cinderella_effect#:~:text=In%20evolutionary%20psychology%2C%20the%20Cinderella,by%20her%20stepsisters%20and%20stepmother.

Bahati’s marriage to Diana Marua seems to have gone belly up but then again, knowing these two, it might just be a publicity stunt. What I, however, do not believe to be a publicity stunt is the fact that his wife and his baby mama and their love child, Yvette Obura and Mueni Bahati respectively do not see eye-to-eye.

Diana Marua snubs stepdaughter, Mueni Bahati on her 5th birthday

And there can only really be one party to bear the blame of this shameful turn of events and that is firmly going to be Bahati. You see, the pipsqueak gospel artist 9I am not sure whether he is a gospel artist anymore or it depends on the weather and the day) is supposed to provide leadership for his family. Given that his is a blended family that has both his wife and their children together with his baby mama and their love-child, the responsibility of making it work fell on his shoulders.

Granted, some women would go out of their way to frustrate a man’s efforts, we never got the sense that was what was happening. Who am I kidding, Bahati doesn’t strike me as the type of man who would provide leadership strong enough for his family to punch their way out of a wet envelope. So perhaps there were some fracture lines we weren’t privy to between Diana Marua and Yvette Obura.

Diana Marua hints about possible separation with husband, Bahati in cryptic message

Usually, such drama is brought about by a lack of clear direction and the need for resources for the children. Perhaps Diana Marua and Yvette Obura were competing for Bahati’s resources including his attention, time and most importantly, money. If Bahati had mentors, they would have guided him through this maze of feminine emotions but seeing as he is on his own navigating some arguably complex and choppy waters, he was bound to fail.

Rather than focusing on beating the man while he is down, perhaps what I should do is instead give him some advice on how to handle his situation. For starters, he needs to get masculine mentors. And unfortunately, the church is plum out of masculine leaders, it just has charlatans and men who have bought into the gynocentric ways of worshipping the virgin mother and all the members of our species who share her set of genitalia. As a result, Bahati will have to look outside the church for masculine men -preferably men who are much older than us (he and I are agemates). Men who have been married for a solid 3 decades or more.

“I appreciate and respect you,” Bahati pens heartwarming letter to baby mama Yvette

The second thing Bahati needs to do is set up boundaries. He needs to clearly state his intention for his children and then insist the two mothers fall in line because at the end of the day, he can lose both women but his children are his for the rest of his and their lives. One such boundary can be for him to insist that they both celebrate each other’s children on social media. When Mueni has her birthday, Diana Marua had better damn well celebrate it on her account and the same goes for Yvette Obura.

The ultimate last step would be for him to make peace with the idea that he can lose these women at the drop of a hat. He should be willing and ready to walk away from them should they refuse to comply and keep it moving with his life. This, unfortunately, seems to have already been decided for him after Diana marua indicated that she was the one leaving their marriage over rumours of infidelity. But then again, what would one have expected from a man who found joy in self-deprecating humour to the point of calling himself his wife’s son?

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