Tag: Noni Gathoni

Bensoul was caught up in a rather intriguing sexual scandal that has rocked not just his relationship but the entire entertainment industry to its core. He is one of those innocent-looking young men who sing about the nature of relationships in Nairobi that surprised many when it turned out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy in their life.

“Do the math!” Bensoul’s 22 year old baby mama denies their unborn baby is a result of a one night stand

So he cheated on his girlfriend, Noni Gathoni, and when that happened, it resulted in a pregnancy that his paramour is looking to carry to term. To his credit, the crooner has stated that they intend to stick around and help raise the resulting child.

However, his paramour has decided to use their tryst to drum up fame and notoriety for themselves. She decided to host an open QnA session on her social media page that served as a tell-all that she used to dish out facts and details about her fling with Bensoul and you are wondering why I suggested he should learn how to strap up here:

5 lessons we learn from Bensoul impregnating his affair partner

However, it would seem a lot of people on social media were expecting Noni to kick Bensoul to the curb. Actually, to be fair, I can see why they thought that would be the outcome of their relationship -after all, he had cheated and was caught in the worst way possible; a reminder in the form of a human being who would be a nagging responsibility for 18+ years.

But they couldn’t be further from the truth. Noni and her man have no reason to break up because she has been shown the ultimate measure of hypergamy and the Sol Generation signee has passed it with flying colours: a woman chased after and got impregnated by him. let that set in, a woman who did not know him from her father’s anus decided that after one evening of fun, she would bring forth a baby for him -whether or not he wants to be the father of her child.

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There are men (and “fathers” of 5) who marry women and then still get cheated out of continuing their lineage by being cuckolded over and over again -all 5 times. Meanwhile, Bensould was busy getting his rocks off, simply looking for poon to spoon and release but he is being arm-twisted into becoming a father… Noni has just been shown that he is truly a valuable man! A high value one at that. She has the “it” guy and that makes hers the “it relationship” and they are now the new “it couple”.

And before you argue with me and start telling me that he is not of high value, you need to understand that society determines who is and what it means to be high value and his generation (Zoomers) have decided that being a celebrity who has ties to Sauti Sol and a quite a few musical hits under his belt is all it takes for him to sit upon his pedestal. And that random one night stand is not going to be the last one nor was she the first one he had stepped out of his relationship with.

‘Nairobi’ hitmaker Bensoul admits to cheating on girlfriend and impregnating ‘side chick’

However, in Bensoul’s woman’s mind, he has been stamped as the best possible man she can probably get. She would be mad to let go of her gem. I mean, sure he cheats but that is because he can. And the women want to run after the man that every guy wants to be. For now, he is it.

Then there is the fact that women are more than willing to share a top tier man than they are to have a faithful man who is useless in their eyes. She would rather have someone who elevates her status in society than have someone who she has wrapped around her fingers. Don’t believe me? Then that is because you’re the schmuck that your woman settled for. She couldn’t get Wafula Thundercock (as my mentor likes to refer to them) so she settled for you, the safe, boring guy who pisses her off for simply waking up next to her in the morning.

Bensoul is better than most 24-year-old men. He is in the top 10 per cent of the highest calibre men of that age group easy! And in fact, I would go on to say he is in the top 1% of 20-25-year-olds. Of course, she would stay with him and go on to have a lovely relationship. I still don’t think he should be dating Noni anyway but now that we are here, he is not going to let her go.

Time will tell whether I am wrong about this but Noni and Bensoul will continue dating but their relationship is about to become crappy because she is going to try to get him accustomed to her yanking his chains and making him jump over hoops to prove his loyalty and love and I see him failing those tests and that will cement the crap he has to deal with it… Time will tell. But that is a story for another day.

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Bensoul has been caught up in a situation that has left his relationship with some girl named Noni Gathoni on the rocks if not over after it was revealed that he was expecting a child with yet another random groupie he met in Mombasa.

‘Nairobi’ hitmaker Bensoul admits to cheating on girlfriend and impregnating ‘side chick’

In case you’re a bit slow on the uptake, allow me to simplify what that means; he was caught after Edgar Obare revealed to the world that he had stepped out on his lady love with a Mombasa based groupie and the resultant pregnancy is currently entering its second trimester.

I don’t know whether we should be shocked or elated that the guy that gave us the immensely popular hit, Nairobi, had lived up to precisely what he sang about. That’s right, turns out that while art often imitates reality, on this one Bensoul was simply singing about the fact that he himself is prone to stepping out on his partner (wonder whether she too is guilty of this).

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But while the world and Noni’s relationship are burning, we can get some positives from their issues as we can learn a thing or 5 from their experiences and allow that to enrich our lives. So rather than pontificating and passing hollow judgement on Bensoul, I would rather focus on giving you some lessons I picked up from all this so let’s get right to it:

#1. He is too young to have considered a serious relationship

I have a mentor who keeps on telling me that I am far too young for a serious relationship. If anything, he is constantly telling me that I should not get into a relationship until i am 30. Any man’s 20s are for learning himself, playing the field and building himself up whether it is in academics or learning the ropes of their career of choice or business. In a few rare cases such as Bensoul’s his was his craft as a musician. He should have focused exclusively on that and not given his commitment to anyone.

‘Baba Yangu Ako Tu Lakini Sijui Ako Corner Gani-I Was Raised By My Mom and Sister’- Bensoul

Why? Because he has zero experience with female nature and doesn’t know how to define himself yet as a man who is his own mental point of origin. Instead, he started defining himself as Bensoul the artist and Noni’s boyfriend. He also got caught up in the machinations of his paramour because he is naive to the ways of the world and feminine nature.

#2. He should have used protection

Man, I can’t believe I have to say this but when you’re sleeping with someone and you have a lot to lose, use protection. When you’re sleeping with a local random, use protection. If you’ve heard of HIV, use protection. Hapa Bensoul aliniangusha. Always use protection. And just as we saw with Drake, when you’re done, dispose of it yourself. Always be in control of the birth control option yourself and pulling out isn’t sufficient.

#3. Monogamy is a fool’s errand -if and only if…

You’re high value, and here I do not mean what you think of yourself but rather the fact that the world believes that you’re at the top, then you will always have options. He is a top Kenyan artist signed to one of the best local record labels around, Sol-Generation. Noni had to have been a fool to think she would have him all to herself. Not only that but selfish too. Why did he attempt to yolk himself unevenly to any one woman?

Societal pressure and norms are truly a ball and chain to some men. Bensoul has achieved that rarified air. One of the reasons I had previously said he is too young and inexperienced for a committed relationship is because if he had taken the time to play the field, he would have realised that at his level, a lot of women would be willing to share him if he only been honest about it from the beginning. Instead, he allowed himself to fall into the oneitis trap and subsequently attempt to maintain a monogamous relationship. To his benefit? Certainly not his and though the sacrifice seemed to be for Noni, she’s now hurting and humiliated after realising this was a fool’s endeavour.

#4. Baby trapping is real

I do not care what anyone says, Bensoul was bay trapped. Yes, he is a foolish young man who clearly thinks with the wrong head but he was clearly baby trapped by a random bussdown who views him as her ticket into not just a comfortable life but also celebrity status -she is now forever more going to be Bensoul’s baby mama. Kenyan celebs need to start moving on a different type of time.

#5. Having real mentors is important

All in all I doubt that Bensoul would have found himself in this sticky situation if he had a real male mentor in his life, someone who has walked the same journey he has, someone who has experienced the highs and lows of Kenyan celeb status. I mean, come on, how did no one teach the young man that he had to use protection because he is literally a meal ticket to some Kenyan ladies? Hell, he could even have been taught how to handle a sneaky link.

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