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The real lessons to learn from DNG and his wedding/ divorce

Posted on November 14, 2020 by Ozymandias

DNG learned a lesson that he is yet to internalize; no man is a hero to his wife. But that lesson came at such a high cost, he had already sunk money into a wedding ceremony that was top-billed only for the marriage to last less than half a year.

“I have not given up on marriage, I am still looking to settle,” DNG reveals 5 years after ugly divorce

And he has come from that situation heavily scarred, bruised but finally I can say wiser. I have been sitting down during these dreary, dank November days discussing a lot of things with my friends and DNG’s marriage was one of the things that came up once his video interview came to our attention and the man has actually matured. He has said a lot of things that we could learn from and that is what we are going to be doing today.

You see, DNG had one of the most acrimonious separations (and divorces?) we ever witnessed. He tried to keep things calm and off tabloids but once the cat was out of the bag, it was pretty easy to draw up a vivid picture of how things went so sour. And now where we are at is at the point where he has finally healed, finally found acceptance of the fact he is now a divorcee because he has done a lot of introspection so he knows where he lies with regards to the problems the relationship had.

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DNG pointed out some major red flags that young men should look out for when they are dating and looking to make the relationship serious. He is now filled with gems and while I know a lot of you outchea will point out that he is constantly trying to drop into the direct messages of girls but at the end of the day, he has done nothing wrong and we live in the digital age when meeting a person online for a romantic dalliance or just a quick dalliance isn’t really a major issue.

Back to the matter at hand, some of the major gems I want to highlight include the fact that long-distance relationships do not work. DNG found out the hard way that monogamy and long-distance make for seriously strange bedfellows. Long-distance allows for both parties to get up to some mischief and while some cooky pastor will tell you that absence makes the heart fonder, we must instead be more pragmatic and remember that out of sight is out of mind. No relationship can survive long distance with both parties being unfaithful.

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Add to that the fact that it is very important, nay, paramount that when you as a man decide to get serious with a woman, you have to have certain conversations around your ideologies and your future plans too. You see, you and your bae were not raised under the same roof so you have different world views, different attitudes to different situations and you also grew up in different realities. DNG learnt this the hard way and he is paying that karma forward. It is important to make sure you guys either have the same attitudes and outlooks or if you do not, you can compromise. If not, then you will have some serious headaches later in life.

Understand that any serious relationship you choose to engage in will have an impact on your monies. So you have to ensure that you have a conversation with your significant other to first understand their attitudes towards money and that they have a plan of how they intend to preserve and grow the money they both bring together. This was one of the most important conversations DNG realized all too late that he needs to have engaged in with his ex-wife.

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And of also heavy importance is the fact that you as a man should never be desperate to get with a woman to the point of ignoring your logic, common sense and even your gut instincts. DNG admitted that he had done so because he was in love. At some point he had called off their engagement but because he was ïn-love” he became a simp for her. Look at how well that played out for him.

Whatever the case may be with your personal situation, gay or straight these are some serious things you have to think about before becoming serious with your significant other.

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What DNG, Timmy TDat and Johnny Depp have in common

Posted on June 30, 2020 by Ozymandias

Afew days ago, DNG was accused by his former beau and bae, a lass who calls herself Fionah James of being abusive. The allegations came months after their relationship had ended when the scars of any such attacks cannot be seen by the naked eye.

How DNG´s severe beatings saw ex-girlfriend Fiona sink into depression (Screenshots)

Such allegations have become the norm for many a celebrity couple once they have split up with the female partner almost always invariably mentioning abuse as one of the problems that dogged the relationship.

While it is only right for women to testify their truths when they have been abused, I am here to argue that the “believe her” argument has been abused to no end and is in and of itself a problem. Why you ask? Because it doesn’t solve the problem and only normalizes physical abuse and battering.

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Take for example the DNG case. Fionah James, an intelligent lass by her own right should have gone to the police officers closest to her to report the matter when she alleges that DNG hit her.

Instead, she came to social media to “spill her tea” to microblogger Edgar Obare. As if we are her “internet in-laws” or she would get some justice out of her revelations.

And DNG isn’t the only one to have suffered these unsubstantiated allegations as Timmy TDat too found himself adversely mentioned by his one-time paramour, Kush Tracey, of having gotten violent with her.

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If indeed these allegations have a shroud of truth to them, it could be argued that the severity of the actions merits police involvement. Instead, we have to contend with petty gossip.

Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? Have we forgotten also that in legal proceedings, the onus is upon the accuser to prove the accusation beyond a reasonable doubt?

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DNG and Timmy TDat have been exposed in the worst way possible because the allegations levelled against them cannot be proven. And if their accusers are telling the truth (and that is a very big IF) then they have done a disservice to women in Kenya who could genuinely be at risk.

And when you look at it from a global perspective, isn’t that the way the Johnny Depp situation went? His ex wife Amber Heard went out of her way to accuse him of being abusive yet the testimonies coming out of court portray her as the abuser. One would wonder why she didn’t go to court when she claims the abuse originally happened.

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Kenyan celebrity marriages are a reflection of the state of Kenyan marriages

Posted on June 29, 2020 by Ozymandias

When we take Kenyan celebrity marriages into account, more often than not, we are discussing failures rather than success and that is because we discuss the likes of Nice Wanjeri and Wagithomo or whatever her husband calls himself. We are discussing Betty Kyallo and Denis Okari, DNG and his ex-wife, Willis Raburu and his wife Marya Prude.

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And unfortunately, this situation reflects the state of Kenyan marriages in Kenya in a way that can get too uncomfortable for most people to admit. Kenyan celebrities face the same issues and things aren’t looking too rosy for marriages in Kenya.

You see, if we take each individual couple as an example, it will allow us a better view of how things work in terms of the challenges Kenyan marriages face. For example, we could start with Willis Raburu and Marya Prude.

Lessons we hope Denis Okari will teach Betty Kyallo about marriage

In this case, the first issue that we can see was the trial of the miscarriage. That is a larger issue that plagues Kenya: our healthcare sector is a joke. However, that only served to exacerbate a clearly bad situation because the couple went for a short vacation in America and even that couldn’t save their marriage. We were instead treated to stories of their separation being occasioned by infidelity.

When we take DNG and his ex-wife, it was clearly a case of a couple that decided to get married to satisfy societal and familial pressure. That is why they engaged in a disastrous marriage after such an expensive wedding. The couple were clearly not on the same page when it comes to the important issues that form the foundation of a marriage and family. And this issue isn’t unique to them. Kenyan celebrities also get the same pressure from society and their families to “step up” and get married when they arrive at a certain age even if they aren’t financially or mentally prepared for such a big step.

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Another Kenyan celebrity couple we can look at is Betty Kyallo and Denis Okari. These two divorced from each other because their marriage was rocked with the most unforgivable of sins: infidelity.

But what happens when you find out your spouse has been unfaithful or when you begin to become close to another individual right at the point where you and your partner are experiencing a low point in the marriage? This situation engulfs many marriages but Kenyans largely act like this is a foreign concept.

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Nice Wanjeri and Wagithomo were a couple who hit the skids when the woman, Nice began to get to enjoy success in her career and her husband says she became a problem to deal with. As a result, they went their separate ways. This is a Kenyan celebrity couple that experienced the problem of what to do when a woman becomes the main breadwinner. And this is a problem many modern couples face and what happens then?

These Kenyan celebrity couples are an example of what Kenyan couples deal with and they are a very good reflection of what happens when these circumstances aren’t handled well.

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The curious case of DNG and why your girlfriend is shaming him

Posted on May 4, 2020May 4, 2020 by Ozymandias

DNG was recently involved in a scandal involving leaked photos and videos of an adult nature -the type you would watch animals get down and dirty doing on the Discovery Channel. As a result, he has been the talk of the town with many a woman running to her Twitter account to “expose” him for sliding in their DM.

Over 10 women label DNG ‘Ultimate Fisi’ for begging for s3x from them on social media

Now let me get this out of the way and say I am neutral on the issue of the leaked photos and videos. Innocent until proven guilty. But away from that, I will delve headfirst into the matter of DNG sliding in many Nairobi lasses’direct messages. On that issue, I believe he does indeed do that.

DNG looking dapper — Davidson Ngibuini alias DNG

But so what?

What does DNG going in on many a fair maiden’s DM’s have to do with the rate of the artificial insemination of wombats in Maragua? It is inconsequential because DNG is simply attempting to actualize his mating strategy. He is trying to smash. And no force nor coercion is involved so these are consenting adults. So why is your girlfriend so upset about the fact that DNG has decided to use IG as a dating app?

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Could it be your girlfriend is upset because DNG did not slide into her account? Perhaps. You know her as does the other guy she is smashing that you believe is just her friend so I cannot speak to her motives.

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At the end of the day, the lasses who are giving DNG their contacts outside of IG and then one thing leads to another and they end up having coitus is optimizing her own sexual strategy. She is attempting to optimize hypergamy. By any stretch of the imagination, DNG is a high-value male. He has a successful business, he is a famous media personality and he is a single male. So a lot of these lasses crying about being used forget that they were trying to finesse a relationship and commitment from DNG.

Add to that the fact that most of these lasses willingly and enthusiastically jumped his bones and you realize your girlfriend’s objections are the noise a randy goat makes out of frustration when it cannot get to mate. Your girlfriend probably is upset DNG did not deem her alluring enough to risk the damage to his name by sliding in her DMs.

DNG has done nothing wrong. He is a hunter on the prowl and all the pretty lasses on IG are fair game. Whether or not they have the intelligence to partake in the dance of seduction with him.

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