For some reason, Anerlisa Muigai has decided that she is the person to be speaking about marriages as she has recently shared a post telling men to get married.
The irony in all this shouldn’t be lost on you because it was she who left her husband, Tanzanian crooner and now unmasked toxic simp, Ben Pol.
And I am saying all this even though I admitted that I owed Anerlisa Muigai an apology. At the time, I bought into the nonsense her ex-husband, the weak love-struck buffoon was selling.
And yet, at the same time, I can also point out that she isn’t the one to ask men what they think. Why? Because she clearly has zero understanding about the concept of hypergamy: women want men who are doing better than them and secondly because of cognitive dissonance.
There was a time when Anerlisa complained about her ex-boyfriends all being golddiggers so one has to wonder how her cranium can associate the idea of marriage with wealth building while simultaneously accusing her exes of trying to use for her money…
I can’t believe I’m saying this but I Anerlisa Muigai an apology. Has been made abundantly clear by the fact that I got everything about her relationship with Ben Pol completely wrong. Well, I wouldn’t go as far as to say I got everything wrong, however, I did get the foundational aspect of it wrong.
For the longest time I had assumed that it was he who walked away from the marriage. Was under the impression that he got tired of having to deal with her and her shenanigans. Very recent interviews seemed to vindicate the assumptions I was making. Oh how wrong I was!
Ben Pol filed for divorce from Anerlisa Muigai
In one fell swoop, Anerlisa Muigai managed to render us under those assumptions in such complete fashion you cannot help but feel some faint pity on the foolish simp that is Ben Pol. After his ill-advised view, she posted screenshots of how badly he was simping in her DMs and I can’t help but feel completely disgusted at how weak and spineless he has proven to be.
The level of incongruence he has exhibited is simply jarring. Think back to a complaint Anerlisa raised about her ex-husband; she complained he would entertain a lot of female attention. For some reason, he is operating off a scarcity mindset behaving as if she were God’s gift to Earthpedestalize in her and making it seem like she’s the best thing since sliced bread.
Anerlisa Muigai
It boggles the mind and makes one wonder what exactly it was he believes he could only get from Anerlisa Muigai. What is it that is making a bona fide superstar crumple into being a weak simp.
I owe her an apology because from the text she said it is abundantly clear that while relationships fail because of both parties involved she was unfairly saddled with most of the blame by myself and it is abundantly clear that she is the one who has healed and moved on whereas he is still pining and crying for what once was.
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai
Indeed it reinforces our lesson I was taught as a child, “do not judge a book by its cover”.
Ben Pol has finally begun opening up about what exactly transpired between him and Anerlisa Muigai and boy is it vastly interesting to finally get his side of events. You see, when news broke that they were divorcing, it was she who ran around telling her story and her version of accounts. Wouldn’t you know, she refused to own any responsibility over the fact that the relationship was coming to an end.
As far as we, the observing public were concerned, he remained stoic. He was silent even as he was insulted and had his name dragged through the mud. We all wondered why he preferred to stay mum while all the flaws and faults of the relationship were dumped at his doorstep, right on his feet.
Ben Pol files for divorce from Anerlisa Muigai
But that is why we are having this conversation today because he has a lot to teach us and we really need to sit down and take the time to learn some lessons from Ben Pol and the manner in which he conducted himself throughout his marriage and the subsequent divorce.
Ben Pol could have fought his wife on social media. Instead, he chose to focus all that energy inwards and improve who he is as a man. While his wife was busy slandering him and complaining about why it was her marriage had failed, we saw Ben Pol go in search of God and he ultimately converted to Islam. Then after that, we saw him focus on his businesses and craft and he put out some really dope music.
Trust me when I say he would never have managed to mature from all this was he busy tripping on his tongue, trying to defend himself against all the allegations and insinuations his ex-wife was dropping.
Anerlisa and Ben Pol’s young marriage allegedly going South
#2. Women never take accountability
Anerlisa Muigai has refused to own up to why her marriage ended and her role in all that. She has since hinted at her exes all being the problem. Mara one wanted to use her as an ATM, mara another wanted her to invest in his business, mara huyo mwingine kafanya upuzi ile and nowhere does she pose and think, maybe when I reacted like this to that or when I said this, I wasn’t speaking nor living my truth, I was just adding crazy fuel to a stupid fire.
And that is why I am predicting that even if her current relationship blossoms into a marriage, she will be twice-divorced -she hasn’t done the work to better herself since Ben Pol and hasn’t matured from who she was as a wife.
Ben Pol recently gave an interview in which he posed a rather interesting question about just how quickly his ex-wife managed to move on that is actually a very prudent observation:
After whatever happened in my personal life, in my opinion I felt that if someone was really in a relationship, that space and was really invested, you can’t end things yesterday and tomorrow you move on with life like nothing happened.
Ben Pol
And that is something that would require a response but most aren’t mature enough for that conversation. But if we are being realistic, when a man dates and even marries a woman, he needs to understand that she is not his, it’s just his turn. And this truth is amplified more by the fact that she had a lot of past lovers meaning each man had left their mark and scar on her. And the more previous lovers she had, the less likely she is to truly pair bond. Anerlisa Muigai will never belong to anyone. Her ego, her romantic history and her refusal to get therapy get in the way of any happily ever after.
Anerlisa Muigai just doesn’t seem to have learnt a single thing from her divorce from Ben Pol… Or rather, she hasn’t learnt a thing from the fact that ben Pol divorced her and you just can’t make this mess up!
It is clear for all to see that she chooses not to surround herself with people who would foster personal growth from her by helping her face and answer difficult questions. Instead, she is surrounded by yes-men.
Lanes: Anerlisa Muigai
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai had a rather difficult marriage after what was a whirlwind romance that took East African by shock. We had no idea how the Keroche heiress and scion of the wealthy Karanja family met with Tanzanian singer Bwana Pol.
Whatever happened, happened and what transpired from that was the pair eventually dated and ended up walking down the aisle together to exchange wedding vows. The wedding seemed like a shotgun wedding and the couple didn’t particularly strike me as being prepared for the actual marriage.
Ben Pol files for divorce from Anerlisa Muigai
When the wedding went belly up, I suggested that both of them should take the time to seek counselling to deal with any underlying psychological scars the divorce left. Let’s face it, Anerlisa Muigai probably took on the worst toll from the divorce and it doesn’t help that it lived up to the pattern her previous relationships took.
She decided to conduct an interview with -get this- not a Kenyan publication but rather a Tanzanian one, Bongo 5 and we already can guess why she did that… It’s her way of hitting out (or should I say reaching out) to Ben Pol.
She is just as aware as we are that if she had given a Kenyan publication the interview, Tanzanians would probably not have noticed and if they had, time would have passed thus dulling the sting of it. But Anerlisa Muigai wanted her message to be fresh when it was delivered.
According to her, she found Ben Pol’s handling of their marital issues immature especially the way he chose to handle the dissolution of their marriage. But the thing is, she forgets that this is actually an indictment of herself. She CHOSE TO DEAL WITH HIM. She was not forced into the union. If she couldn’t tell that he was immature then we have to wonder why that is. And actually, for all of us looking in from the outside, Ben Pol was the more mature of the two.
Anerlisa and Ben Pol’s young marriage allegedly going South
While they were married, he remained mum on the goings-on in his marriage. He never let out a peep, unlike his wife who was quick to always run to social media with her “cryptic” posts about life, love and happiness. He only spoke about the marriage and its ultimate conclusion when it was finally done and he hasn’t spoken about it since then.
Clearly, Anerlisa Muigai has not learned a damn thing since the dissolution of her union and we are probably going to see her make the same mistakes in her subsequent relationships and the next few partners will all suffer the punishments she will inflict on them because she has not dealt with her trauma and damage.
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Anerlisa Muigai is not over Ben Pol and is doing the most to try and make it appear she is and that is precisely what tells her she is not over the man. Vicious cycle.
You see, when Ben Pol finally decided to file for divorce, we had already begun to notice that the marriage was in its death throes as the two were operating like single people.
Lanes: Anerlisa Muigai
What are some examples of what I am talking about? Well, Anerlisa Muigai was nowhere around when Ben Pol decided to convert to Islam. It was like he had made up his mind and she was an afterthought.
And similarly, he was nowhere around Anerlisa Muigai when she resumed her life in Nairobi, miles away from their hearth and home in Dar es Salaam.
Anerlisa has taken to sending herself romantic gifts and acting like they are from a lover
And now she is busy sending herself flowers and love notes that are “anonymous” yet there is someone at hand to videotape the entire incident that was impromptu at her business meeting? Only a fool would believe that.
But the most telling thing is the fact that ever since Ben Pol rejected her and said he did not want to remain married to her (by initiating the divorce), she has been spewing alot of diatribe against her former beau.
Anerlisa Muigai with bae earlier today
It is clear that given her nonsense relationship background, one could bet the house that she had no business being in a marriage before she had undergone therapy. Add to this the fact that Anerlisa has engaged in a prolonged one-sided war of words and you understand that this entire fallout was simply path of the course for her.
She is hoping to hurt and humiliate a man who refused to talk about her after their divorce and only did so recently to clear the air after months of being painted like a leech and half a man. I find it hilarious that Anerlisa knew her man was from a poor background but it is only now that this has become an issue she wants to broadcast.
And then she has taken to referring to him as “not a man” which shows me a lack of clear thinking on her part -she was sleeping with a man she knew was “not a man” and even agreed to marry him yet she is now trying to shame him?
All of Anerlisa Muigai’s words tell more about her than they ever could about her former husband and the biggest thing they tell us is that she is not over the failure of her marriage and given the way both parties have conducted themselves post-divorce, she was the clear problem in the union.
Anerlisa Muigai is a Bitter Betty after the termination of her marriage to Ben Pol. Ben Pol seems to be the more stoic one here but for some reason, Kenyan women seem to want to vilify him for the end of their marriage.
And truth be told, he makes an easy target as he doesn’t seem too keen on defending himself -until now. He recently opened up about his marriage in an interview with Tanzanian media and what he said added new layers to the already layered love story of how a boy from the slums of Tanzania managed to woo and marry a girl from one of the wealthiest Kenyan families.
The Anerlisa Muigai story is actually quite captivating because of just how much of a Disney love story it seemed like it would be but it eventually fell apart at the seams -and did so drastically.
In his lady love, Ben Pol had found a woman who was emotionally damaged. Anerlisa has been involved in many relationships that failed spectacularly. From dating Ian Mugoya back when he was the hottest commodity on Kenyan TV to being conned by her “friend” Ben Kang’ang’i and even allegedly getting herself a “liquor license” with Natasha Jewel Johnson.
Anerlisa Muigai has displayed a knack for picking useless men and partners and somehow when the story is told, it is always her partners’ fault that the relationship ended.
Ben Pol is no saint but he seems to have really wanted the marriage to work but he was dealing with someone who should have undergone some serious therapy before she got married and as a result, the love story was shortlived.
The age-old question of whether two people from two diversely different backgrounds, one essentially a princess and the other essentially a pauper, the Alladin story, can work in real life has been answered. And that is why we are all so captivated.
Anerlisa Muigai seems to have come to a point of clarity that has allowed her to see that it is time for her to be more selfish with her resources chief of which are her time and money because she feels she gives too much to her partners.
Try and read that without laughing. Because her behaviour online is a reflection of herself and trust me when I say that she is nothing if not frugal with how she uses her resources because one of her most valuable assets is her IG page and she barely used for her partner’s benefit.
Allow me to jog your memory to a time a few years back when Anerlisa Muigai’s Instagram account was declared to be one of the most valuable accounts in Kenya and East Africa as a post from her was evaluated to be worth three hundred and fifty-two thousand back in 2019.
Yet whenever Ben Pol had a new project, she would not really help promote her husband’s work by posting it and when she did, it was done on her stories which meant it would expire in 24 hours. And whenever they had a falling out, she would delete her husband’s pictures off social media.
Ben Pol filed for the divorce
That makes you wonder what she means by her being more and more selfish. She was already selfish to begin with and this was a huge issue with her relationship with Ben Pol. An aspect of this was the fact that she always ran to IG to hint at her frustrations instead of giving their marriage a chance to survive by addressing their issues privately between them.
Anerlisa Muigi seems to only see value in the amount of money spent. That is why she has gone first to hint that selfishness is in the amount of money someone has or spends with or on you. That is also probably why Ben Pol posted something hinting at this.
Ben Pol mocking Anerlisa Muigai?
You cannot enter a marriage with the individualistic notion of you getting ahead and doing the best for yourself by getting the most out of your marriage. Because marriage is hard work on both parties and any fickle understanding of what to expect leads to these abysmally short joke marriages.
Anerlisa Muigai did not seem to go for marital counselling and Ben Pol did not provide adequate leadership. Why else is she more focused on the amount of money invested in her marriage and not the fact that something intrinsic in her is broken enough for her to be unable to pair bond for more than two years?
Anerlisa Muigai thinks it makes sense to keep doing the same thing over and over again
And the only thing she can think of to take from her failed marriage is that she should be more selfish with her money and time? At the start of the marriage, the one thing you mustn’t be selfish with is your time. And the fact that none of her friends is willing to call her out on this bullshit notion makes me wonder whether all her friends are just scared of losing the cushy life being in her intimate circle affords them. Absolute rubbish.
And again, I think I must reiterate that she needs therapy because if this is the only thing she can think to talk about as a lesson from her failed marriage, you can be sure she will keep repeating the same mistakes in all her subsequent relationships.
Tanzanian singer and actor Ben Pol is allegedly going through a tough time after choosing to divorce Anerlisa Muigai.
Although we are not aware as to why the perfect match decided to part ways; word has it that there were red flags way before the wedding even went down. However, having met a man who can love and treat her like a princess; Anerlisa Muigai fell in love and along the way decided to become a wife to the Bongo singer.
Anerlisa soon to be ex hubby, Ben Pol
Unfortunately the union was only temporary and what’s more surprising is that Anerlisa has already started to move with Ommy Dimpoz; the man allegedly warming her bed for the mean time.
Anerlisa fed up
Well, since most break ups end up getting ugly; Anerlisa recently confirmed that she is on her own – and wishes not to be associated with anyone (Ben Pol and Ommy Dimpoz) for the sake of her peace mind and sanity.
Ben Pol mocking Anerlisa Muigai?
Ben Pol press release
In a new post shared by Ben Pol’s management; we believe that the singer is facing a hard time with ongoing divorce process.
Ben Pol and ex, Anerlisa
For this reason, his management has asked fans, bloggers and news outlets to give the young man an easy time; by respecting his privacy and space.
Headline: Ben Pol’s divorce proceedings are ongoing. At this time, Ben Pol would like to confirm that his divorce proceedings are in progress at the primary court but have not yet been finalized. These proceedings are a very private matter and he will not discuss any details out of respect for all parties involved. He kindly asks that space and privacy be given to him and his family during these challenging times.
The management went on to add;
He appreciate everyone’s understanding and takes this opportunity to thank his family, his friends and his fans for their ongoing support. Ben Pol’s Management
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai are a divorced couple and we know this as word from Tanzania revealed that he has filed for divorce from his immensely loaded wife and wouldn’t you know it, word going round reveals that she has already moved on.
Yes, Anerlisa Muigai is rumoured to be involved with Joho’s friend, Ommy Dimpoz and from her ex-husband’s reaction, you can tell he is hot and bothered at what he is hearing as he said as much. For argument’s sake, we will move forward with the assumption that this allegation has some merit behind it given it came directly from Bwana Pol.
The issue now is that to most people, they assume that he is upset at Anerlisa for moving on and seeing someone shortly after they split but I am here to argue that Ben Pol is actually upset at the man whom he thought was his friend only for him to betray him.
And therein lies the real issue here: the insidious nature of men who dirty mac. Incase you don’t know what that means, allow me to tell you a story that will help you better understand where Ben Pol is coming from:
Men chase after Anerlisa after rumored failed marriage with Ben Pol
Boy meets girl and they start dating. Everything goes well and they end up in a relationship. Naturally, she is introduced to his side of life which includes his friends, acquaintances and co-workers. Eventually, these guys get married but things do not work out and they end up divorced. From that point going forth, this girl starts dating her ex-husband’s acquaintance.
First of all, that would indicate that this man is not his friend. Ommy Dimpoz probably had his eyes on his friend’s wife from the jump. And he has shown a disgraceful disregard for the almighty bro-code.
Ommy Dimpoz
As a man, you do not ever want to be in a situation in which a guy within your sphere of influence has been praying on the end of your relationship or marriage so that he can now have a go with your partner. Why? Because there are 7 billion human beings on earth and of this number, about half are women. So rather than go after a woman whom you know will cause you and your friend to have a falling out over, why not simply go for the many other available women?
At the end of the day, Anerlisa Muigai is immaterial to this entire scenario. She is just a place holder. It could have been any woman. The issue is that Ben Pol also probably knows that the woman he used to love enough to commit his future to is busy making nice with a man who sees her as little more than a jump-off. That is an entirely different level of disrespect.
Ommy Dimpoz is rumoured to have gone after Anerlisa Muigai
But because I cannot tell the future, I will hold my tongue and say that time will tell what Ommy Dimpoz intentions are if indeed he is going after Anerlisa Muigai. And I would wager that if he is genuinely after a relationship, then Ben Pol will mellow his opinion on the matter but again, only time will tell.
Anerlisa Muigai now has a failed marriage to add to her long list of failed relationships, one of which was rumoured to involve a female by the name of Natasha Johnson and whatever the truth is about that dalliance; one thing remains, she is the common denominator in all her relationships.
So now we have a situation in which her marriage has gone belly up and she can only focus on herself to find the solution to their problem. However, that is not what we are seeing her do. There is no introspection taking on.
Anerlisa Muigai is divorced at 30
What we are seeing, is an example of an issue that plagued her throughout her relationship: constantly running to IG for validation and reassurances when something isn’t going well in her personal life.
And when Anerlisa Muigai gets the fish her bait was targeting, she starts complaining and bellyaching. You see, her marriage has come to a very public and humiliating end. Rather than taking the time to internalize what has happened, rather than taking the time to heal from what has happened then learn from the mistakes that led her to this point in life, she is busy posting nonsense on her IG account.
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai during happier days
Make no mistakes about it, I know that Anerlisa Muigai can very well post whatever the hell she wants on but in keeping with that sort of energy, I am free to see her post and realize that there is a separation to not be perceived as weak. So she has to yell out loud to let us know she is not hurting. And we all know that only hit dogs yelp.
You see, regardless of whether or not he is your cup of tea, Ben Pol is a top tier man: in earning and in social clout. He is a star and he comes from a poor family but the fact that he dragged himself out of Viguguti slums in Dar es Salaam is impressive.
NERO company CEO, Anerlisa Muigai is a beautiful woman who cannot sustain a relationship. Why?
The Keroche Industry heiress managed to land him but whenever they had a tiff, she would always run to IG and drop his name from her bio. She would change her info to delete the fact she was married. She would always open the door into her relationship for her social media minions who would doubtless also serve the role of sending small jabs at her husband.
Imagine that. You’re married to a woman and you have no qualms in letting the world know. Hell, you actually commit to her and want the world to know that you’re sacrificing your sexual strategy for the sake of being monogamous to one partner.
In return, every time you and your partner stumble, she runs to social media, a place she knows she gets a lot of sexual attention (whether unrequited or not is not the issue here) to get validation and hint at there being trouble at home.
Man like Benpol decided he would rather be alone than married to Anerlisa Muigai
This is a big issue a lot of modern marriages face. The fact that absolute loyalty is demanded from men but their wives aren’t even asked for privacy. They can’t just keep things offline. To top it off, we all get the type of results we set out for. That is why she is getting thirsty men in her DMs.
Anerlisa would do well to be reminded that when a fisherman goes out fishing, he sets bait for the type of fish he wants. The reason why she is getting thirsty and dusty men is down to the type of content she is sharing on her IG. Which type of man would be proud of such behaviour from his partner?
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai look like they are headed towards being a statistic of just how flighty modern day marriages have become or maybe because they haven’t been married for more than a year, the end of their marriage will be an annulment.
Ben Pol and Anerlisa Muigai have been the fodder of gossip for quite a while as she did the rubbish that modern women do that is childish: deleting photos of her husband whenever they fight and constantly unfollowing him.
Anerlisa Muigai was quick to let us know alot of men were thirsting after her when her marriage to Ben Pol was first rumoured to be on the rocks
Often, this is how modern women let us all know that she is upset at her husband rather than deal with everything in-house. And given that Ben Pol is a high-value male with status, wealth and good looks, he was never going to the one to vumilia the nonsense.
And now the chicken have come home to roost but the question I want to ask is; who exactly is surprised by the outcome of their marriage? Who can say they were blindsided by the news that Ben Pol filed for divorce? I don’t think this has even caught Anerlisa Muigai by surprise.
Anerlisa seemed unaware that her husband wanted to convert to Islam
You see, when we take a look at their relationship from the outside looking in, what we see is a woman who had refused to follow her husband’s frame. I get it, she is an heiress to the Keroche Industry business, but when it comes to the household, she showed an unwillingness to fall into his frame. That is why her social media remained unchanged other than a few cosmetic things.
Then when he went to Saudi Arabia, Anerlisa Muigai seemed as shocked as we were to learn Ben Pol, her husband, had converted to Islam. And she did nothing to try and meet him halfway by trying to immerse herself into that culture. You see, it makes sense that she, having been raised a Christian, probably wouldn’t want to change her religion but like with all other religions, there is a culture that comes along with the faith. She did not immerse herself into the culture.
Ben Pol and his wife back when the love was strong
You see, another major hurdle that we do not want to discuss just yet is the fact that Anerlisa Muigai came from Nairobi Kenya. A decadent city coiffed in pretences of being liberal. She, probably, like most girls raised in Nairobi, did not know what marriage entailed. And Ben Pol comes from Dar Es Salaam (or is it Dodoma?) where they have an entirely different mindset towards marriage.
Anerlisa Muigai has had a plethora of relationships including one rumoured dalliance with a female who goes by the name of Natasha Johnson and all her relationships ended in animosity. That is a precursor to what she knows about maintaining relationships. Ben Pol might eventually be convinced to take back his wife and they might try their hand at fixing their issues but I wouldn’t advise him to waste his energy.
Anerlisa Muigai has not only proven to be a private person; but continues to keep fans guessing, jumping into conclusions and confusing them through her special media pages. I bet this is because as much as she would have wanted to parade her life, share her joys on social media; there are those who often wait for this chance just to mock and insult her.
Call it the best punishment or medication for busy bodies; but at the end of the day fans cannot help but love this amazing lady married to singer Ben Pol. The couple who walked down the aisle about 7 months ago have been keeping their wedding photos and videos private; but once in a while Anerlisa gets generous and shares at least one.
Anerlisa and Benpol wed
Apart from the photos shared by Bongo Paparazzi, so far Anerlisa has only shared two photos showing the wedding decorations; then she shared a close up photo where she is seen looking like a princess on her big day.
Christmas gift to fans?
Well, just incase you were wondering what she wore or how her wedding dress looked like then worry no more. The Keroche heiress just a few hours ago released yet another never seen before photo from her private wedding.
Although fans cannot see her face or the designer shoes she wore; many remain grateful for this photo as she rarely exposes her wedding photos online. To caption the beautiful moment Anerlisa wrote;
Well, with a Swahili man who appreciates her like the princess she is; I guess Kamati ya Roho chafu has to fast and pray if they want to see these two separated. Otherwise, it’s death till do them part.
Anerlisa Muigai and Ben pol’s marriage is rumoured to be on the rocks and to be honest, it is they who have caused these rumours to start circulating by the actions -or lack thereof.
You see, Anerlisa Muyigai and Ben Pol were the type to share every little bit of their relationship on social media. We were treated to the sights and sounds of their courtship. We watched as they moved from innocent romance into a fully-fledged adult relationship complete with an end in mind. And we watched them cross that finish line but here is where the rest of us need to sit up and take note because they were unable to answer the question that faces every newlywed couple; the question of “what next?”
Ben Pol after his conversion to Islam
From treating us to the photos and videos of their exotic dates to treating us to the advice Anerlisa Muigai would occasionally post on her social media account and Ben Pol looking like an introvert cast into a world he seemed ill at ease with. Ultimately, when the wedding happened, we seemed to have been flung from a romantic tale with its own happily ever after to being treated to the big bad monster of what comes after the wedding ceremony is over and the bride and groom are left to chart the path of their lives (both individual and united).
Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol seemed to fall apart almost immediately. On social media, a couple whose pattern had taught us to expect their photos and videos decided to delete each other’s photos off their individual platforms. A couple that was not shy about flaunting their love now hid that sought of stuff and would get defensive when their respective fans and followers raised questions. Anerlisa particularly became prickly about the topic of what was happening on the homefront.
Anerlisa and Ben Pol’s young marriage allegedly going South
Then we saw Ben Pol make the monumental life decision of converting to Islam and his wife was nowhere to be seen. She wasn’t by his side and many thought the step had caught her flatfooted. But at this point, we need to understand for our own benefit that a wedding is never the end goal of courtship. Sure, it is a monumental leap but the end goal should always be to build wealth together (or galvanize and protect already amassed wealth) and to raise children in the most healthy environment known to man -a family.
Anerlisa Muigai is someone who is showing us through her situation with Ben Pol that a couple that is dating needs to give more than a passing thought to what life will be like when they finally have the marriage they pursued. You see, Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol both come from immensely wealthy families but they have completely different world views given their different walks through life up until this point. They see a problem from different angles and see opportunities differently because of how their families socialized them and also because of how their environments shaped their thought patterns.
Young couples need to plan out their lives together before they take their vows to see whether or not they are compatible. Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol are showing this. They are also showing that for a family to work, for two people to come together and build a family, they have to make some tough decisions as well as they possibly can. They have to find middle ground on things such as ambition, world view and sometimes the only way to do so is to come to a compromise.
The social media photos are nice. The loving videos are great. They inspire young couples to keep marching onto their wedding days but there has to be more than just that ceremony that the couple are looking forward to. Ben Pol should have taken charge and leadership in this matter. It should have been him guiding Anerlisa Muigai on charting their “what next”. Perhaps that is happening but I highly doubt it given he seems to be charting his own individual path.
Ben Pol and Anerlisa during happier days
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Ben Pol is back with a new banger dubbed Napenda Nipate Lau Nafasi. To add on, the singer has teamed up with Wyse on his new single.
Ben Pol Performing Napenda Nipate Lau Nafasi which was originally performed by Kilwa Jazz Band. He brings out the best in the jam giving it a new age feel.
First, this comes after performing sikukuu. To start with, the performance of this jam by Kilwa Jazz Band is just one point such that one might think it is his.
Napenda Nipate Lau Nafasi is a call song to a woman being loved
Going by the lyrics, the remake is much better and seems like a song that has gone to school.
“Napenda nipate lau nafasi, Nipate kusema nawe kidogo aah mamaa Rohoni naumiaaaa,” reads the lyrics.
Also, the above stanza, Ben Pol is praying that he gets a chance to talk to the girl. He goes on to talk of how much he is hurting. Also, this line brings out the emotions that are required in the jam.
“Hakika la kufanya bado sijaliona, Nimeona leo bora nikuite Huenda punde roho yako ikadunda, Ikaja siku ukaja nipoza moyo mamaa, Rohoni naumiaaa,” he adds.
Further, into the above stanza, it seems the person is done o waiting. As a matter of fact, they feel that they need to protect their heart not to break anymore.
“Katika kuja kwako wewe wangu mpenzi. Ni kama mganga utayenitibu katika maradhi yanayonisibu. Hakuna mwingine ila ni wewe mpenzi. Uje hima, Mwenzio naumiaaa,” adds Ben Pol.
In addition, the lyrics show a person who really needs their partner to heal. In this case, Ben Pol says that only the arrival of the lady will calm them down. Also, it shows a man who feels that they need a woman as their support system.
To add on to that, Napenda Nipate Lau Nafasi is a song that is simply describing what lovers got through after parting ways.
Ben Pol and Wyse have really tried in this. In conclusion, Napenda Nipate Lau Nafasi gets a rating of 6/10.
Ben Pol has gone beyond his artwork to give bring us the song Sikukuu. Well, the gentleman from Tanzania has given this jam a new style.
Honestly, I have never felt good while listening to such a song. Today this guy is my hero for the Christmas gift. Sikukuu has a new kind of beats.
I know you all remember those days when music was music. Actually, Ben Pol has taken us back there. As am writing this review you can be sure am dancing.
Ben Pol is calling on God to bless and provide for the needy. He also thanks God for the gift of life. According to him, most people started the year but left along the way.
Sikukuu is a thanksgiving song
I mean this is something most people witnessed. To add on, the singer asks people to thank God for being alive and healthy.
In short, this is more of a prayer for this festive season. In addition, Ben Pol pours all his emotions in this Sikukuu song.
I know I might have left a very important for those who do not understand Swahili. Sikukuu is a Swahili word meant to mean a holiday in lay man’s language.
Sikukuu is a song that talks of a better ending for the year 2019. As I approach the end, Ben Pol adopted a new style where it appears like the live banding is performing.
Listen to the dramas and the guitar, you’ll automatically fall in love with this kind of work. It is not usual for many to remember those in suffering but Ben Pol in Sikukuu did.
This is that kind of song that will carry you even before you notice. I thank God that someone thought of a thanksgiving song.
In conclusion, Sikukuu gets a rating of 8/10. Ben Pol for sure did a good job.
‘Kijanisha Dodoma’ the rain dance song by Ben Pol. This jam is more of a rain dance song which he’s done with local dancers.
It is a song done in appreciation and motivating a tree planting project in Dodoma. Also, the project is a motivation of the Whites and the Gogo people.
To add on, trees are a blessing as they have water catchment properties and thus preventing air pollution and also bring rain as well.
This song is done to welcome Ben Pol to Dodoma to assist on the earth taking project.
Also Kijanisha has a beautiful lyrical flow for the dance. Ben Pol always gets it right you know.
It includes repetition, ‘Kijanisha Dodoma,’ which has a swahili meaning, make Dodoma green. This is a perfect definition of a dance song and more of cultural dance song.
Nyati Mchoya leads in the song as he invites people involved in the tree planting Dodoma project. Ben Pol is singing a perfect lyrical lead which too involves repetition.
Kijanisha Dodoma is has a cultural set up as the dance illustration itself. In addition, the attire for the dance is also well done to represent Dodoma culture.
Ben has a new jam dubbed Sana. In this jam he has featured Timaya. The Tanzanian musician is back with a very great jam. Sana is a love song that talks of how everything he does he does it for the woman. You know how love makes one stupid.
Him collaborating with Timaya has added a new feel and vibe to the song. I’d gladly say that the jam is smooth and worth ones energy to listen. It has been presented in a way that you’ll feel the love flowing.
Ben Pol and Timaya do not disappoint with the lyrics even after his long break. This guy still has a way of making his fans love him. This song is truly a masterpiece.
Relevance of ‘Sana’ as a title
This stanza expresses the theme of love so well; All these things when I do for you Well I know under nobody work In my heart just no one but you Oooh my girl you’re my beiby girl.
The beauty does not stop there, the song goes on and on and further into Sana, the chorus talks of his satisfaction with the girl. Nimeridhika(Sana) Unachonipa(Sana) Nimefika(Sana) Sina mwingine. This is where the title of the song is also heard a lot. The word Sana means a lot in Swahili.
Production
Also, sound is something that we all value. You realize that when the audio and the beats are well done, the song will easily flow. The audio mixing is at per no competition at all. Ben Pol needs to give us more of his work. I just can’t wait to see the video.
In conclusion, Ben Pol and Timaya should gives us another collaboration and change the subject. They are a great duo and consistence will keep them at per with other Tanzania artists. The song gets a rating of 6/10.
