Murugi Munyi Shares Her Most Profound Takeaway from Therapy

The most challenging part of therapy is often recognizing the ways in which you’ve contributed to your own struggles—whether by allowing others to take advantage of you or by being overly self-sacrificing. Award-winning content creator and events host Murugi Munyi knows this feeling all too well.

Recently, Murugi opened up on social media about one of her most eye-opening realizations after months of therapy. The mother of three, who has been a strong advocate for seeking therapy even when one feels “fine,” shared how deeply ingrained her people-pleasing tendencies were and how they have negatively impacted her relationships.

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A Cycle of Unmet Expectations

Murugi candidly admitted that she often takes it upon herself to meet others’ needs, even when they never asked for help.

“Here is one thing that therapy made me realize about myself that I am actively working to change. I see a need, and I want to be the one to meet that need. I go above and beyond—even when they never asked me to intervene, to help, or to do anything at all!” she shared.

The frustration comes later when her efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated. She admitted feeling resentment when people fail to acknowledge the sacrifices she made for them—despite the fact that they never requested her help in the first place.

“And then, I get upset when they don’t recognize how much effort or sacrifice I put in. I get angry when they don’t acknowledge something they never asked for in the first place,” she added.

Breaking the Pattern

Through therapy, Murugi has been able to identify and actively work on breaking this pattern of behavior. She posed a critical question:

“Who is the problem here? Is it not me? Doing things no one asked for, then getting upset when they don’t fall on their knees in gratitude?”

She further reflected on whether her intentions were truly selfless or driven by a desire to be perceived as kind and generous.

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Unlearning Limiting Beliefs

During a past episode of The Messy In-Between (TMI) Podcast with her best friend Lydia KM, Murugi revealed another major limiting belief: the idea that she is responsible not just for her own success but also for uplifting those around her—particularly her family.

“I feel like I can’t fully celebrate my own wins unless everyone I care about is also winning,” she admitted.

Lydia agreed, noting that Murugi often struggles with the need to build up everyone around her, sometimes at her own expense.

As she continues her journey of self-awareness and personal growth, Murugi is learning to set boundaries, release unnecessary burdens, and embrace the idea that she is not responsible for carrying the weight of others’ lives on her shoulders.