Lillian Ng’ang’a Reflects on the “Madness” of Past Abusive Relationship
Lillian Nganga recently shared a personal story about experiencing a toxic and abusive relationship in the past. Her recollection was triggered by a recent visit to the doctor with her son, Utheri, whom she shares with rapper Juliani. During the visit, her own physical condition prompted the doctor to inquire about her well-being at home, raising concerns about possible domestic issues.
Nganga clarified that she is not currently in an abusive relationship and that all is well between her and her husband, despite recent rumors of separation circulating on social media. However, the doctor’s questions brought back memories of a past experience with gender-based violence.
“I had no intention of doing a video, but here I am. And it is because I am from seeing a doctor… My baby and I have been sick, but we are better now,” Nganga began. She explained that her eye was swollen, requiring a check-up. “When I got to the hospital, the doctor was so concerned, like, did somebody hit you? And I said no, no. Nobody hit me,” she recounted.
This prompted her to recall a time when she was in a relationship with a man who was violent. She described an incident at a nightclub where her then-boyfriend, believing another man was looking at her, physically assaulted her. Nganga admitted to hitting him back in the moment. Despite this incident, they did not end the relationship immediately.
“My boyfriend decided to conclude that this person was looking at me, so he hit me, and I was so shocked I hit him back instantly. Even after that incident, we did not leave each other,” she shared. She described the relationship as intensely passionate but also deeply toxic, recalling times she had to call in sick to work due to the situation. She even recounted a doctor’s visit where, after claiming to have fallen down the stairs, the doctor recognized the signs of abuse and told her, “You’re lying, this is somebody who hit you.” Reflecting on this period, Nganga stated, “Looking back, I can say that was madness.”
Nganga emphasized the importance of leaving an abusive situation when one is truly ready, to avoid returning to the same harmful cycle. She captioned her post, “Reality: things that are hurting you now will become a distant memory in the future.”
