Jamal Roho Safi shows us how not to start a polygamous marriage

Jamal Roho Safi recently made the news for all the wrong reasons: he was caught up in a love scandal with established video vixen and socialite, Amberay who outed their love affair and revealed that he was taking her on as his second wife.

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But there was just one problem -despite his religion, Islam, allowing him to take up to four wives, he has to get the support and acceptance of his first wife before he brings in a second or more to his household.

And wouldn’t you know it, she recently revealed that this protocol and cultural dictate was not observed. According to Jamal Roho Safi’s first wife, Amira,

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 ”The thing is, kila mtu ni mtu mzima… It was his own decision. Sio rahisi. But usisasahau pia; according to religion, ukiwa unaoa mke wa pili unafaa umjulishe mke wako wa kwanza…. Sio sawa kwangu na haitawai kuwa sawa… Dini inaruhusu lakini mimi sikujulishwa.

Mimi mwenyewe nilikuja kujua kwa social media…”

And you can imagine just how spineless this approach seems to anyone with a head and sense of courage and common decency. I get it, every story has two sides but I do not see a reason for Amira to lie on Jamal Roho Safi’s name so I have to ask why he took such a spineless route.

You see, high-value individuals are not to be confused with high networth individuals. Jamal is the latter. When a man has ascended to the top of his world, it is only natural for him to attract attention from both women of value (traditional women) and trollops. Thing is, however, that if he is married, he would be wise to keep his affairs hidden like a dirty secret so as not to upset the balance of his family.

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But if he is looking to become a polygamist, the right thing to do is to notify all the involved parties and that especially includes your wife. So Jamal Roho Safi’s actions smell of desperation and a scarcity mindset. I would argue that he is deathly afraid of losing Amira so instead, he attempted to finesse her into accepting the situation.

And that raises a second issue: never publicly humiliate your partner. What Jamal did with Amberay was to carry on and then break the news via social media so now his wife and the mother of his children is being humiliated in such a crushing and public way. Trust that women know how to nurse grudges.

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But at the end of the day, if indeed he did not inform his wife Amira before the rest of us, this speaks to his lack of respect for his marriage and the fact that indeed, he doesn’t need to involve himself in a polygamous marriage when he cannot ebven manage and lead his first marriage in a straight forward fashion. Why take on a second wife when you’re too scared of your first wife to tell her your decision?

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