Dr. Ofweneke Claims He Loved His Ex- Wife Too Much That He Forgot Himself

Kenyan comedian Sande Bush, better known by his stage name Dr. Ofweneke, has opened up about his failed marriage to gospel singer Nicah The Queen. In an interview with Obinna, the comedian shared his insights into the dynamics that led to the end of their relationship.

Ofweneke said that one of the biggest mistakes he made was focusing too much on his partner’s happiness and neglecting his own. He explained that people often enter relationships with the intention of changing their partners, which can lead to unfulfilled expectations.

“We get into relationships with the idea of changing what attracted us to them in the beginning,” he said. “‘This is what I like about you, then I come in and I want to do a whole interior makeover of who you are, so I want to turn you into what I prefer.’ So I end up not being who I am to make you happy.”

Ofweneke also said that he had placed an undue burden of happiness on his partner. He called this a “power bank relationship,” where one person becomes the sole source of happiness for the other. This can lead to emotional dependence and eventual dissatisfaction in the relationship.

“The second mistake I made in my marriage is putting the burden of happiness on other human beings,” he said. “I tell people I’m my own happiness, otherwise, we are stuck in power bank relationships, one person is charging the other, you can’t sell what you’re not feeling.”

Finally, Ofweneke spoke about the concept of personal growth and healing within relationships. He said that people often end up as emotional healers, trying to fill the emotional voids of their partners. This can be a draining and unhealthy dynamic.

“We need to learn to be whole people before we get into relationships,” he said. “We need to be able to heal ourselves and not expect our partners to do it for us.”

Ofweneke’s insights offer valuable lessons for anyone who has been in or is considering a relationship. By understanding the mistakes that can be made, we can avoid them and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.