Alfred Mutua on losing his ex wife to another man, regrets choking the life out of their relationship

Former Machakos County Governor Alfred Mutua says he never saw his breakup with ex wife, Lilian Nganga coming – mainly because he was too focused on his work life forgetting he has a partner who also has a life of her own and dreams she wanted to achieve.

It happens. I mean – most marriages go through different challenges but when there is no communication- the relationship starts to slowly break and by the time you realize all is not well…the damage is usually irreversible.

This is the same case that happened to Alfred Mutua’s relationship and for the first time – he admitted having ruined his own marriage by not putting his ex wife first not forgetting the part where he also forgot to show support in her interests.

As seen on a screenshot from a newspaper piece he shared his thoughts on, Alfred Mutua wrote;

I look back and k realize that we unintentionally impose our visions onto our partners. Never asking what they wanted and deciding whether we can meet it. In my quest for ultimate success, I slowly but surely choked the life out of us. I gained the world, but I lost us.

Mutua Regrets losing wife

On a different paragraph he however mentioned that maybe seeing her act reluctant and not wanting more contributed to his behavior towards her;

It bothered me that she didn’t want to expand her boutique. It was doing well, but I am the kind of man who doesn’t know when to stop. I want the world. But at some point you will have to stop and let your partners be. And that if you must proceed, you’ll have to do it alone.

Reading the whole post will make you understand how much he regrets losing Lilian Nganga; but like the swahili say maji yaki mwagika, hayazoleki and maybe sharing his experience will help others stuck in the same situation.