It is common and normal for a young single woman to seek for the views of her Pastor about the man she intends to spend the rest of her life with.
It becomes more important when that woman is also not only a church member but an active participant in church activities.
For a woman who is a singer in her church, the views of her pastor are very important to her. Pastors/Prophets are a part of the spiritual lives of most Christians. As such, their views matter a lot when it comes to issues relating to some members of their church.
But the question is how far and on what issues in ones life must he/she confide in a pastor ? Or yet still, will you allow your pastor to determine the man/woman you should spend the rest of your life with?
Well, a Ghanaian lady has shared her story with relationship expert David Papa Bondze-Mbir on Facebook on how her spiritual father hurried her into marrying the ‘wrong man’. And for what? Just because he(the pastor) was benefiting from the man financially.
According to the lady whose identity has been kept secret, her ‘spiritual father’ never accepted any of the men she introduced to him. Instead, he’ll drive them away by saying that they are not men God wants her to marry.
However, this same pastor and her spiritual father one day introduced her to a rich man who had paid the church a visit from overseas.
According to the lady, the pastor persuaded her to marry the said man which she obeyed, considering the fact that she thought he always wanted the best for her.
Only for her to find out later that the man, who is now her husband is married to a British woman with whom he lives with abroad. As if that was not enough, she only get to see her own husband twice every year. To top it all up, she’s currently staying in one of the man’s houses with her frail mother-in-law whom she’s taking care of. She states that this very woman knows what his son is doing but pretends not to know.
Read this lady’s story below, as shared by David Papa Bondze-Mbir on Facebook;
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Hi Dave. This is my story. My spiritual father is my head Pastor. I helped the Church a lot with my singing. Daddy preferred I sang for him before he preached.He loved me as a daughter, and always wanted the very best for me. He became a huge influence in my life, I realized I wasn’t able to even date any man he hadn’t approved of. He had a negative vision of any man I introduced to him as a potential boyfriend. He would always tell me,“That man is not him. He is not of the Lord. Be patient.”
I was patient till my 28th birthday, when this rich guy from London, visited us for a month. His mother is a member of the Church, so he just came with her. The Church was organising a fundraising that Sunday and the guy gave. Over 30, 000 Ghana Cedis. Immediately after the gentleman’s offering, Daddy called me to come sing. He made me sing for over 20 minutes. The following day, Daddy invited me over to the house. The gentleman and the mother were there.
To cut the long story short, the man was in a process of separating from his wife (that was the story he fed us) and wished he could marry a decent lady. Daddy told me he was the one meant for me, and persuaded me into accepting him as a friend. Within a week, the guy wanted us to be intimate, because he was leaving the country the following week. I refused him s*x.We kept in touch when he returned to the UK. On the 23rd of April, 2013, he asked for my hand in marriage. He confirmed his divorce to his first wife.
He has a big house in Accra, so that’s where I am staying right now, with his mother. I am taking care of his aged mother, Dave. All his siblings are outside of Ghana.I only get to see him, twice every year. And he stays for just a month. A friend of mine in the UK tells me he is still married to his British wife. He has been paying so much offering through Western Union money transfer to my Pastor. He’s bought the pastor a car. He invites him to London, but not me.