I Am In A Committed Relationship But I Am Not Ready To Settle Yet- Ama Of GMB
Coming from a society that values marriage as a woman’s greatest achievements and not her prowess in the field of academia or being career oriented, a woman should then not expect any peace of mind the moment she hits her 20’s.
Not to forget the extravagant weddings exhibited all over social media in recent times all in the name of marriage, it looks like Ama, despite her achievements is not spared the same drama of ‘when are you getting married?’
Nana Ama Agyiewaa, winner of Ghana’s Most Beautiful Pageant in 2010, has said that she being the only girl of her parents is pressured by her old folks to get married even though she is not ready for that yet
“You know, being the first child and the only girl of my parents, I do get my mom pushing me about this marriage stuff but the point is, I am not ready yet financially. I want to be able to bring something to the table in order to have a smooth family life. I cannot leave everything to my man, she explained in an interview with showbiz.
The Queen further explained that, with she not being married at her age, people think that she is afraid of commitment.
” Some even tell me to just have a child and I say no. They now think I am scared of commitment but that is not the case. I am in a commuted relationship but I am not ready to settle yet, she added.
The 27 year old Queen, who is now a trained child psychologist advised young women to only go for marriage only if they are ready for it and never succumb to any form of pressure from anyone.
“There is no point in letting these things get to you, you cannot avoid them but you need to defend yourself. Defend by getting your life in order. Don’t marry and be a burden on the man, get something going, get something in your account to support the man you are marries to. Until then, do not allow pressure get to you”, she advised.
Many are of the perception that beauty Queen’s form part of the long queue and class of female celebrities who find it difficult finding a life partner because they portray a high maintenance image but Ama is of a different view concerning that.
According to her, instead of classifying them as part of that family, it is rather some Ghanaian men who feel intimidated to approach a lady they are interested in simply because they have climbed a little higher than them.
” For me, I think some Ghanaian men suffer inferiority complex,they think because we are up there, we will turn them down when they approach us. They have to be bold and make their intentions known to us.
“I am not the type who ‘carries’ her crown everywhere. I drop my guard the very moment I am approaching home. I come from a very principled home where discipline, humility and respect are our hallmark so I can’t be doing beauty queen things there”.
Ama, who joined the pageant show at her early 20’s explained that she was glad to have been a participant of the show as it has given her more enlightenment and helped groomed her to become the woman she is today.
” I won it 7 years ago and before, I was just a girl next door, now I am mature and truthfully, I love the woman I have grown to be and continue to be”.
She further explained and admitted that, the journey is not as easy and glamorous as many consider it to be.
“It is not an easy thing, and a lot is expected of you as soon as you get the crown. I remember when u won, someone from my hometown called my mom and asked her to tell me to come and fix their raid and electricity since they voted for me.
She also added that: ” Another thing is that here in Ghana getting sponsorship is very difficult but once you have it figured out, you are good to go on your projects as a beauty queen”.
Credit: Ghanaweb.com
